HE WON'T KISS ME PASSIONATELY

[Maya]

My fiance' and I have been together 4 a year now and we don't kiss
passionately. He says it's because he isn't a kisser. We have actually
had heated debates about kissing to the point where I was in tears and
he STILL did not kiss me!
He tells me he needs to work his way up to a passionate kiss, but he
ALWAYS likes for me to give him oral sex. His penis spends more time
in my mouth than his tongue! I am considered to be not just an
attractive woman,but beautiful to most men and women. I take great
care of my dental hygiene, and I am a very
giving/open-minded/passionate lover. He's gorgeous w/a sensuous mouth
that just makes my mouth water and makes me angery at the same time.
He only gives me cursory kisses across the mouth.
Our relationship has had some dramatic moments over the months, but
he is basically a great personality, and is EXTREMELY sexual
w/me---but NO Kiss of ANY kind of passion yet.
Help!!! Please send your response to me at:***@AOL.COM. I am
thanful for any help here. Bless all of you.

[Peter O. Nilsson]

I sympathize because I suffer from that problem myself... and feel
terribly guilty towards my mate: I loved to passionately kiss my
preceding relation. Now that she had left me, I feel like cheating,
when I kiss my new mate.
However, I noticed that the *volume* of saliva is to me the first
responsible: even with a very neat person, what is felt as "too much"
is sometimes hardly to bear. :-)

It may occur with some ladies with a 'rich nature', having abundant
secretions of various kinds.
""Too much"" saliva may awake the same feeling than the one some women
feel when they receive ""too much"" from their lover in their mouth...

Could you try to kiss him when he is *over* you, so that you keep the
majority of your saliva in your own mouth? It may ease the problem if
he has some unconsious difficulties to receive your saliva.

Another possibility is also that he may simply be not as romantic, or
not as deeply in love, than you? Or, on the opposite, still under the
reminders of a preceding relation...
As tells Dr Ivan Greindl (http://www.4yourcouple.com/introeng.html),
the ultimate solution is probably to SPEAK of that with him, without
arguing, without tears or rising the tone of voice, in a frank and
sincere dialogue?
I wish you succeed in finding the solution.
My best regards
Peter.

[W.E.Cole]

Maybe you already identified the problem - very sexual but no (emotional)
passion. The way you're describing it, he sees your mouth as an object to
express his sexual desire, not his emotional commitment. That may just be
the way you describe it, but then, maybe it's not.

Question? Is this relationship based on lust or love? (And are you sure of
the answer?)

~WEC

Post by Maya
My fiance' and I have been together 4 a year now and we don't kiss
passionately. He says it's because he isn't a kisser. We have actually
had heated debates about kissing to the point where I was in tears and
he STILL did not kiss me!
He tells me he needs to work his way up to a passionate kiss, but he
ALWAYS likes for me to give him oral sex. His penis spends more time
in my mouth than his tongue! I am considered to be not just an
attractive woman,but beautiful to most men and women. I take great
care of my dental hygiene, and I am a very
giving/open-minded/passionate lover. He's gorgeous w/a sensuous mouth
that just makes my mouth water and makes me angery at the same time.
He only gives me cursory kisses across the mouth.
Our relationship has had some dramatic moments over the months, but
he is basically a great personality, and is EXTREMELY sexual
w/me---but NO Kiss of ANY kind of passion yet.
thanful for any help here. Bless all of you.

[Daniel]

My boyfriend also doesn't kiss me passionately. I'm not ok with it,
but when we have discussions about our intimacy he usually expresses
how he feels in words. I still miss those awesome kisses from past
relationships, it really means a lot to me for a healthy relationship.
If the saliva problem is really an issue, then there should be some
sacrafice on the other's part. It's love, that means sacrafice right?

Good luck with this.

[Darren]

Post by Daniel
My boyfriend also doesn't kiss me passionately. I'm not ok with it,
but when we have discussions about our intimacy he usually expresses
how he feels in words. I still miss those awesome kisses from past
relationships, it really means a lot to me for a healthy relationship.
If the saliva problem is really an issue, then there should be some
sacrafice on the other's part. It's love, that means sacrafice right?
Good luck with this.

Have you considered, stop giving him blow jobs to see if that works.

He may get a mental picture of that when he thinks about kissing, I
had a male friend who told me he had the same problem, he said that it
put him off kissing his girlfriend as he kept on picturing his cock in
her mouth. I jokingly said why where has your cock been! And that was
just it!
Im not saying that this is the case here but don't rule it out, it
could also be just a cleansly thing.

Wishing you all the best in finding the true answer

Darren


Darron