Need advice please.......

[Mandy]

Hi,
I am a married woman with 3 great kids. My marriage has been rocky over
the past 5 years. Over the past year my husband has made 3
"friendships" with other women online. He swears that it they are only
friendships. This last one, I just found out last week, that he calls
her on the phone and they are up all night speaking. He is always on
the comp. with her. He has promised to cut off the relationship, but he
still talks to her. Things at home are very tense....borderline abusive
since I confronted him. I am miserable...I love my husband, but I love
myself more. He promised me today it was over with her...should I trust
him?

[j***@bellsouth.net]

Post by Mandy
Hi,
I am a married woman with 3 great kids. My marriage has been rocky over
the past 5 years. Over the past year my husband has made 3
"friendships" with other women online. He swears that it they are only
friendships. This last one, I just found out last week, that he calls
her on the phone and they are up all night speaking. He is always on
the comp. with her. He has promised to cut off the relationship, but he
still talks to her. Things at home are very tense....borderline abusive
since I confronted him. I am miserable...I love my husband, but I love
myself more. He promised me today it was over with her...should I trust
him?

Hi Mandy - I am sorry to hear about your problems. I think that you
and your husband need to find out why he needs this other woman's
attention so much. He needs to decide which is more important, you and
his marriage or these other women.

I also suggest the two of you seek counseling. Why is he so infatuated
with these other women? Is it something he feels he isn't getting
from his marriage? He has established a pattern of behavior that seems
to be a habit. I don't think he will ever stop until he can find out
why he is so driven to seek these women's company.

I am sorry but, talking all night and emailing all day just isn't
right. This is a marriage issue. You need to decide if the marriage
is worth the trouble and effort that it will require. If you think it
is, then he too will have to agree that you and the marriage are
important enough to work through these tough times. Otherwise, I feel
his telephone affairs will destroy your marriage. I would somehow drag
my husband to counseling.

Jenny

[Mandy]

Thanks Jenny,
I have set up counseling sessions for myself, my husband refuses to go.
He sees nothing wrong with his actions. At first I thought that I was
just wrong in my thinking, but the more time I spending thinking about
it I believe that his actions are very wrong. Thanks again, I needed
your reply. : )
Mandy

[Jennifer Ann]

Post by Mandy
Thanks Jenny,
I have set up counseling sessions for myself, my husband refuses to go.
He sees nothing wrong with his actions. At first I thought that I was
just wrong in my thinking, but the more time I spending thinking about
it I believe that his actions are very wrong. Thanks again, I needed
your reply. : )
Mandy

You are welcome. Good luch Mandy!

(((Hug)))

Jenny