Post by Cora's notesPost by blewsteelePost by Cora's notesPost by blewsteelePost by Larry HowardI don't know why but I have the constant desire to have other men see
my wife naked. She's in her 40's but looks young for her age and a
nice build. I have this fantasy about taking her to a strip club and
watching her dance naked while men touch her and do lewd things.
I am strange or do other husbands ever think this?
Yes I have the same desire and we have acted on it several times.
Sometimes with the other male partner knowing I am watching and
sometimes not. We have recently joined a swingers club called
adultmatchmaker. We met with a couple and have gone all the way.
Although the lady of the other couple was quite attractive I suffered
from stage fright and could not perform, this did not phase me as I
was more interested in watching my wife. I like the idea of "Rest
area" sex, where she has sex with strangers in a semi public place and
I get to watch and to listen. We are yet to try more than one male
sharing her at a time but I look forward to this. Try talking to your
wife about it, it works for me
I am curious as why some men would desire this kind of behavior from
their wives and girlfriends? It seems counter-intuitive, but from my
own reading it appears a common fantasy. I recently discovered a
website entire dealing with this phenomena.
Have those who have carried this beyond the fantasy level ever come to
regret their choice? How does it affect your marriage? Is there guilt
and even shame after?
Do you worry about disease?
No guilt or regret here. It has not had a detremental effect at all
and when we are togeather and talk about it while having sex (with
each other) it is very erotic. Disease is a concern however
precautions are taken as would be expected
This still doesn't explain this particular flavor of desire, however,
and I am curious about the "why" of it. Aren't you afraid that she
might decide to stay with one of her lovers? How would you feel about
that? Also, is humiliation any part of this? (I am not being critical
of that motiff at all.)
Cora
I am very secure in this area and have no fear of my wife leaving me
for anutha luva. It is sex for sex sake eg. If brocky took you for a
spin in the new holden round bathurst, I'm sure you would find it
exhilerating, exciting , thrilling and a lot of fun, ( you mite even
like it ...... heaven forbid) but that doesnt mean you are going to
part with M.V you have and buy a racing car give up your job, your
life as it is to become a racing car driver. It comes down to
attitude. You really do control your self and sumthing can only hurt
you if you empower it to do so. Your own values, morals and ideals,
mixed well with your fears and insecureties, bring you to a point
where you cannot accept or understand it.
The humiliation part, no I dont feel humiliated. I like to hear her
moan and groan with enjoyment. I like to know that she is enjoying
this physical act. It just this moment occurred to me that it feels
sort of like being a naughty boy, doing some thing I am not supposed
to do. Also a deep carnal lust. I like to watch and when he is spent I
know I'm next. I'm not a psycologist and have not really dug deep into
the brain for the motivation behind this desire. It feels good, does
none of the cosenting adults any harm, so I don't see a problem