loosid
2005-11-03 14:54:01 UTC
This isn't a big issue in our marriage, but I am newly married. I knew
when I first met my wife that she had an affair with a married man for
3 years. It was difficult understanding, and also intimidating because
clearly it was a physical relationship purely, which is not something
that is within my own experience, especially since I had extremely
little relationship experience prior to my wife, so it's my own problem
if that shocks me or whatever, since I lived a pretty isolated life.
After we were engaged since told me that she had a second affair with a
married man, and actually had a threesome with him and his wife on two
occasions. OK, again, trying to digest that. I know this is not that
uncommon, but it is for me.
I have to admit that from time to time it disturbs me, and most of the
time I can deal with it by saying thse are days gone by, it's in the
past, she made mistakes, but it's hard to break that stigma about the
other woman, about the lowness of sneaking around having sex with a
married man. Before my wife, I probably would not be so understanding
if it were someone else doing this. I know this is MY issue, not hers,
and she should not suffer for it by me being distant sometimes when I
think of that stuff. I know I must get over it, but it's difficult
once in awhile.
I just wanted to vent a bit. Thanks for listening.
when I first met my wife that she had an affair with a married man for
3 years. It was difficult understanding, and also intimidating because
clearly it was a physical relationship purely, which is not something
that is within my own experience, especially since I had extremely
little relationship experience prior to my wife, so it's my own problem
if that shocks me or whatever, since I lived a pretty isolated life.
After we were engaged since told me that she had a second affair with a
married man, and actually had a threesome with him and his wife on two
occasions. OK, again, trying to digest that. I know this is not that
uncommon, but it is for me.
I have to admit that from time to time it disturbs me, and most of the
time I can deal with it by saying thse are days gone by, it's in the
past, she made mistakes, but it's hard to break that stigma about the
other woman, about the lowness of sneaking around having sex with a
married man. Before my wife, I probably would not be so understanding
if it were someone else doing this. I know this is MY issue, not hers,
and she should not suffer for it by me being distant sometimes when I
think of that stuff. I know I must get over it, but it's difficult
once in awhile.
I just wanted to vent a bit. Thanks for listening.