Love Talk

[5***@web.de]

Enayone ever noticed that, when people often talk about how it was when
they met an SO, the'll include something about (walking and) talked
till late/morning. I'm wondering if these long talks are a symptom of
love or a precursor i.e. something that ignites love. I mean, do they
develop feelings for the person because they have so much in common and
they converse well, or is it that they enjoy talking to the person
BECAUSE they find the person intriguing/alluring and are falling in
love? (Even the man that spent 20 yesr living in a hole has a story to
tell.) Its a bit of a chicken and egg problem; which comes first. I'm
leaning toward the latter, and I'd like to know what you think.

Thanks,

- Olumide

[Kagome]

Olumide

I may be wrong but I view love as an cognitive function and lust as
biological. Propagation can be achieved solely with lust. The
perpetuation of the species however,is another story. Since the length
of time necessary to rear offspring is many years,it seems logical that
love is required to bond mates together to ensure the safety/education
of the next generation. Personally I think that real love comes from
knowing a person and having mutual respect, especially when not on
common ground. So my answer is precursor. Sorry it's not romantic.
Personally I think that real love comes from knowing a person and
having mutual respect,especially when NOT on common ground. What better
way to achieve that in modern society that 3am phone calls and
purposeless strolls. Once the "love process" is set in motion this
activity reinforces it. Ever notice how, after the passage of time, the
long intimate talks seem to occur much less frequently??? Love has
become more or less fixed and has less need of reinforcing itself.
That's my theory. Could very well be incorrect, but I like it. :)